Because They Told Us, That’s Why

The AccusedThey told you. You just didn’t listen.
Michael Jackson told you how “beautiful” it was to share a bed with children.
Bill Cosby, under oath, told of how he gave the women drugs.
Nate Parker, in a recorded call, couldn’t explain how he and his friend ended up in a threesome with a drunk woman.
Kobe Bryant, in order to have the criminal charges dropped, made a statement saying he now understands that “how she feels that she did not consent to this encounter.”
R. Kelly married a 15 year old.
They’ve told us what they did. They raped women & children.
And folk is up in arms about “smearing” or tryna “tarnish” the legacy of a “good” Black man.
The only people tarnishing anything is these men who do these things and get mad when they get caught.
All of these men have inspired millions and have given to us immeasurable pleasant memories with their music, acting, directing, writing and athletics. These men have also violated and traumatized women and children. They tarnished themselves in those violations. They took someone’s body and used it like they owned it or had some right to take it. They stole that which can never be recovered. They raped. Women and children.
And while most want to focus on the good they’ve done, especially in death, the fact of their transgression, their violation of the body sacred cannot and will not go silent. The voices of the violated need to be heard. If the voices of the violated make you uncomfortable, that is you problem alone. Your discomfort is nothing compared to the lifelong suffering that such trauma brings upon a person.
The greatness of these men can be celebrated by the masses at will. The degradation that these men inflicted is not to be celebrated but it is to be talked about and brought to light and allow the countless, voiceless victims a voice.
The voice of trauma cannot be heard in the wake of these men’s many successes. When a voice of trauma speaks, it is always, unequivocally drowned out by the “goodness” that the masses see and “know.” These masses cannot see the ugly (and I don’t wish that on anyone) and try to dismiss it with the accused “goodness.” But each time you attack the voice speaking out on behalf the traumatized, you become complicit in the trauma. And that’s just not a good look.
So please stop attacking the voice of the traumatized. Stop attacking the victim of the dirty. Trauma, sexual trauma especially, is difficult to understand when you haven’t been a victim, but lack of understanding of it does not, by any means, make it not true.